Thanksgiving is a time to show our gratitude and appreciation for everything in our lives, both big and small.
Take a moment to consider the words below, then let us know in the comments section what you are grateful for this year.
“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.” ~Thornton Wilder
“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” – Coach John Wooden
What are your thoughts on how your school district is handling intimidation, harassment and bullying in regards to school sports and sporting events?
There has been highly negative public reaction to several recent news stories. From Ray Rice to Adrian Peterson to Greg Hardy to Jonathan Dwyer we hear about a culture where aggressive behavior isn’t just contained on the field. It also takes place at home in the form of domestic violence and child abuse, and at school with taunting and hazing.
Now it has occurred here in New Jersey at Sayreville War Memorial High School. Sayreville has cancelled the remainder of its football season because of allegations of abuse, intimidation and bullying. All of us want our children to have positive school experiences, and we encourage them to get involved in clubs and sports. We recognize that these involvements can provide our children with a well-rounded education. Sports are supposed to be a way to build character and a sense of teamwork. Harassment and bullying should not be accepted or tolerated at any level. It’s important that coaches send this clear message, and a message of acceptability and tolerance of each other, to the players before the season begins, as well as during and after the season.
To read more about this topic follow the New York Times and NJ.com articles on Sayreville for acting swiftly to curb bullying.
What do you think of Sayreville’s response?
What can be done about the backlash towards the freshman students that were assaulted?
Children are leading digital lives! As early as elementary school, through high school and college children and teenagers are using social networking, creating and uploading blogs, videos, photographs and music and searching different subjects, chatting on IM, snap chat, and more. There is no “off” switch when it comes to cyberspace.
In our world, the Internet is often no longer a solitary or passive experience. For many children, the Internet is social. Children are using the Internet to express themselves and to experiment anonymously with different identities. While the desire to strike out on their own is age-appropriate, all kids still need parental guidance on how to conduct them safely online.
Learn the Basics of Internet Safety
- Mark your profiles as private – anyone who accesses your profile on a social networking site can copy or screen-capture information and photos that you may not want the world to see. Never share names, schools, ages, phone numbers, or addresses. Remind your kids that when they post something online, they lose control of it. It can be cut and pasted and sent around the Web. If you teach them to self-reflect before they reveal, their online experiences are more likely to be safe.
- Keep passwords private (except to parents) – safeguard your passwords and change them frequently. If someone logs on to a site and pretends to be you, they can trash your identity.
- Don’t post inappropriate or sexually provocative pictures – things that seem funny or cool to you right now might not seem so cool years from now. If teachers, admissions officers, or potential employers see inappropriate behavior on your social media pages it could be damaging for any future opportunities. A good rule of thumb is: if you don’t feel comfortable if your parents saw it, it’s probably not a good idea to post.
- Talk – tell a trusted adult if something mean or scary happens on the Internet. We want to make sure that kids feel safe reporting bad and dangerous behavior.
- Stop and breathe – remember nothing is short lived online. If you get the urge to react instantly to an angry IM or comment on a message board or blog, it’s a good idea to wait a few minutes, calm down, and remember that the comments may stay up (with your screen name attached to your angry words) long after you’ve regained your composure and maybe changed your mind about posting.
Keep your children safe on the Internet by finding out what they’re doing online. You want to make sure they’re making respectful and responsible choices . Take an active role in your children’s Internet activities. This will help to ensure that they’ll benefit from the wealth of information the web offers without being exposed to its dangers. It is crucial for parents to learn about the types of new media and social networking their children are participating in. This will give them more knowledge to facilitate conversations with their kids about the activities they engage in online. The goal is to teach our children how to be responsible digital citizens. This is what will ultimately keep them safe online.
One of the most important characteristics of teaching children is to show respect for their views and to let them have some say in their choices that surround them. Many parents take the word “discipline” to mean punishment. Discipline doesn’t have to hurt. As parents, if we can see the word discipline to mean teaching instead of punishment we can help teach our children to become better human beings.
Here are some tips to teach children to respect.
Love – Children need lots of love and approval.
Communicate – Take time to listen and consider their point of view.
Set Clear Limits – Telling children in advance what is expected and what the rules are helps prevent conflicts before they happen.
Be Consistent – This is the key to effective consequences. Don’t say you will do something unless you are prepared to carry it through.
Check Yourself – If you are angry or frustrated take a time out for yourself. Take a deep breath, count to ten and calm down. Once you are in a calm state of mind then address the situation.
Parenting is one of the best and most rewarding jobs in the world. It is also a tough, 24-hours a day job. The most important key to successful parenting is knowledge, knowing what your children need, knowing how to deal with them in different situations, and knowing how to take care of their needs.
Learning more about parenting and child development can make a world of difference. To learn more check out Skills to Build a Secure Child workshop series.
~ TURNING STONEchoice