The wonderful thing about the Turning Stone process is that its philosophy is all encompassing; it’s a choice-making philosophy meant to better the lives of human beings no matter what age, gender, race or ethnicity.
If we want to make an impact on our youth and shoot to eliminate bullying, we need to first understand for ourselves how choice making can better our lives and the lives of those around us. Let’s put it in terms maybe we all can identify with or relate to…
There are a slew of studies and medical reports on the benefits of a healthy lifestyle. Eating wholesome foods and exercising on a regular basis not only transforms our physical appearance, but it also virtually erases certain diseases and improves mood disorders. Mental clarity, energy and stronger immune responses all have been attributed to living a healthy lifestyle. This being said, why doesn’t everyone choose to live by the codes of healthy eating habits and an active lifestyle?
We are all free to make our own choices. It makes us feel in control of our lives. And being in control of our own lives is a basic need all human beings have (this is very important to remember).
A person who chooses to have a hamburger and French fries over a salad may be trying to control their feelings over a stressful day and wants to enjoy the taste of a particular meal. On the contrary, the same person may choose to have a salad for dinner that night because they are trying to control the feeling of guilt for the burger and fries they consumed earlier.
It’s important to realize and verbalize with our students or children that it is not the choice itself that maintains control over lives. It is the feeling of self-empowerment from making a positive choice, which then leads to a positive self-esteem. A positive self-esteem prevents individuals from harming themselves and others. Voilà! A recipe for a better, more peaceful society with less bullying!